10 Signs That He Is Not Interested in You Anymore

Mixed signals are frustrating and confusing.Mixed signals are frustrating and confusing.

Sometimes relationships fizzle. Sometimes they end abruptly with little left to question. Other times while you may believe you are with the man of your dreams, he is sending mixed signals and leaves you guessing about his feelings. You make excuses for his confusing behavior. Understanding the signs that the man you are with is no longer interested in you may be painful, but it will get you past a dead-end relationship so you can go on with your life.


Avoidance to your calls and texts means your're not important to him.

He does not pick up your calls or return your texts and emails in a timely manner. You find yourself making excuses for his lack of connection. Avoidance is a simple and clear message that he is not seeking your attention.


Not introducing you to friends of his means he's keeping you distant from him.

He does not involve you in his family life or make an effort to introduce you to family or friends. He does not invite you to social functions. He does not make himself available to meet your friends and family.


An interested partner will find time.

He is too busy to set aside time to spend with you; he has other things going on. He does not want to make plans more than a day out. You may be more of a convenience or a distraction than relationship material.


Another red flag is if he doesn't include you in future weekend plans.

He does not bring up the future. Even if you are not planning for a wedding and children, he will not plan for your next vacation or long weekend.


Being unclear with his intentions with you is not healthy.

Not every man knows how to express his feelings directly, so he continues to be ambiguous. He does not clarify his feelings and leaves intentions vague. He may not fully understand his own hesitation.

Other Women

Being flirtatious with other women means he's not serious about you.

He talks about other women and shows an overt interest. He stays close or initiates contact with an ex. A man who is interested in you will be paying attention to you.


He always has an excuse for not being more involved with you.

He has a set of reasons for not being more involved. His reasons leave little room for debate, such as focusing on his career, hurt by an ex or he is too busy to give time and energy. If he were interested, he would find solutions, not excuses.


Frequent drinking or just physical attention towards you is not a man of morals.

He is less interested in intimate contact or only wants to be with you physically when it is last minute or he has been drinking. The amount of contact is less frequent or has stopped.


If you're not totally feeling it, you're probably right.

Go with your gut feeling. If you think something is wrong, then it probably is. Your friends are most likely seeing signs as well and may try to tell you.

Your Signals

Are you really into him?

It takes two to communicate intent. Are you sending signals that he is misreading? Are his behaviors in response to what you are putting out there? Examine your own signs to see if he may be reacting to you.

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About the Author

Terra Roher is a teacher and counselor. Her work has appeared on various websites, covering topics such as relationships and adolescent development. Roher is a member of the American Counseling Association and completed her Master of Education in guidance and counseling from City University of Seattle.

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