How to Ask a Girl on a Date Over the Phone

Asking a girl on a date over the phone can be easy with the right planning.Asking a girl on a date over the phone can be easy with the right planning.

Asking a girl on a date can create nervous feelings, especially if you are very interested in dating her and you're not sure if she feels the same. If you decide to ask her out over the phone, it is important to keep proper etiquette in mind so you create a positive and respectful impression. With so many current advances in communication technology, it can be easy to avoid making face-to face invitations or even speaking over the phone. Make the effort to be more persona to demonstrate that you're confident and honestly interested in spending time with her.

Step 1

Ask her for her phone number and arrange a time to call her. Planning a time to call her indicates that you want to talk further, and it will set a positive tone for the conversation. It can also create a sense of anticipation in the object of your affection.

Step 2

Show your interest by asking questions. Talking on the phone can be challenging if you are just getting to know someone. Start the conversation by asking her how her day was or what she has been doing recently. This will help you create a natural flow of conversation. If you aren't sure what to talk about, think up topics before you call so you aren't scrambling for something during the conversation.

Step 3

Invite her on a date. Be clear that you're interested in getting to know her better. If you already know something about her interests or hobbies, you might suggest a date that involves one of those activities. If you don't know her well and simply want time to talk and get acquainted, suggest having coffee or a soft drink. The key is to be clear you're asking her out on a date.

Step 4

End the conversation politely. If she accepts your invitation make sure you plan to clear a day and time to meet. If she turns you down, take it in stride and be polite. Realize that she might turn you down because you've asked her for time she's already committed. Ask her if she has a better time or if you might try again later. Thank her for taking the time to talk with you, and be sincere. It's important to remember that dating and talking on the phone with perspective partners is important relationship practice. You should try to develop thoughtful and respectful communication skills, and avoid taking rejection too personally.

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  • Even though it's sometimes easier to use texting, avoid texts, instant messages and social media messages to invite a girl on a date. Extending an invitation over the phone helps you practice your communication skills and overcomes any anxiety you might have.

About the Author

Christy Bowles has 15 years of experience in the field of education, with 10 years working in mental health and wellness. She specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety and substance abuse, with a focus on alternative treatment modalities. Bowles holds a Master of Education from Harvard University.

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