How to Ask a Girl for a Kiss

Ask before you dive in.Ask before you dive in.

Many have been there: You think the date is going well and you can't wait for the passionate exchange at date's end. You move in for the kiss, lips puckered and ready to go, only to be rebuffed. Instead of putting yourself out there and risking this potentially painful rejection, consider asking your date in advance if she is amenable to this exchange. By doing so, you can know for sure whether this kiss attempt will be met with happy acceptance or awkward refusal.

Watch for signs of affection. While some women just don't show much affection, in all likelihood, if you are receiving no signs from your potential kiss partner, she is not going to be amenable to a kiss. If she scoots away from you or rebuffs your attempts at even holding her hand you probably won't be getting a kiss. Wait until she shows some signs of affection before asking for a kiss.

Take it slow. Before you make this request, make sure enough time has passed. If you are five minutes into your first date, you are likely a bit premature. Hold off a bit to ensure you don't scare her away.

Think though what you want to say. Before you open your mouth, run through your request in your head. By using an internal monologue to practice your request you can reduce the likelihood that you trip over your words and end up fumbling your request.

Express your enjoyment. Start by telling her how much fun you have had on the date -- and hopefully she will feel the same. This simple declaration of enjoyment is a wonderful way to start this request as it creates a positive atmosphere and makes the reason why you want a kiss known.

Make your request. Ask if she minds if you kiss her, keeping it short and sweet -- perhaps like the peck itself. Avoid rambling at all costs, even if your nerves lead you to do so.

Prepare for either outcome. If your request is accepted, ideal. If not, it shouldn't be the end of your world. Before you even ask be ready for whatever response you receive to ensure that you aren't caught off guard.

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Erin Schreiner is a freelance writer and teacher who holds a bachelor's degree from Bowling Green State University. She has been actively freelancing since 2008. Schreiner previously worked for a London-based freelance firm. Her work appears on eHow, and RedEnvelope. She currently teaches writing to middle school students in Ohio and works on her writing craft regularly.

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