Online dating is becoming more and more common every day. One popular dating site, eHarmony.com, has said that 28% of U.S. marriages in 2007 resulted from online dating. However, this new format introduces new rules --- less face-to-face interaction can result in more uncertainty. Here are some important tips that have been proven effective in getting the man of your dreams to instant message you.
Find the men you want to attract. You can't attract a man unless you know where they are. ConsumerSearch rated Match.com, eHarmony.com and OkCupid as the best dating sites on the net. Most of these sites have a high volume of users, which is a good thing --- more men increases the likelihood that they will message you. Real Simple also cites PlentyofFish, a free dating site, as a site with a lot of traffic, as well.
However, don't limit yourself to just dating sites. If you want to attract a man with compatible interests, then check out chat rooms and messages boards relating to hobbies you like that a man you like might have, as well. Social networking sites, such as Facebook or Myspace, are also a great option because you can search for friends based on interests.
Craft a perfect profile. Remember that your social networking and dating profile is the first thing a man will see. If he doesn't like what he sees, then he can click away. That's why The Singles' Guide rates first impressions as very important in attracting a man online. Your profile is where you need to showcase your personality --- not what you're looking for or what you wish you were like.
Pick the right picture. Keep in mind that your profile picture is also important. You want your profile picture to reflect what you're looking for. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, then don't present yourself as someone looking for a one-night stand. OkCupid's blog, OkTrends, showed that those with direct eye-contact who make flirty faces get the greatest response. However, don't include only face photos. Include photos of yourself doing something you love. Pictures of you hiking or playing the piano can create a common bond or a topic of conversation. OkTrends said, "If you want worthwhile messages in your inbox, the value of being conversation-worthy, as opposed to merely sexy, cannot be overstated."
Take the initiative. If you're interested in someone, do not be afraid to send him a message. Waiting around won't work in online dating; you can't even guarantee he sees your profile. A short, grammatically correct message that hits on a specific interest of his is sure to pique his interest in you.
Things You Will Need
- Internet access
- Pictures of yourself or a webcam
- Before meeting anyone you met online in person, be sure to take safety precautions, such as letting a friend know who you are meeting, when you are meeting and when you plan on being home.