How to Attract an Older Man

You've just met the man of your dreams, but it turns out that he's a little older than you expected. No problem! You can still woo that man and make him want you just as much as you want him.

Act a little more mature than you usually would. This can be tricky because you want him to like you for you and not the persona you're playing. Be yourself, but tone down your outrageous or young side.

Spend one on one time with your older guy. If you're trying to attract an older guy, you don't need a bunch of people around that act even younger than they are. Spend some time with him, getting to know him.

Talk about things that the two of you have in common. It's easy to think that people with a large age difference have nothing in common, but you might be surprised. You may share the same religious views, thoughts on politics or just the same taste in movies.

Be a little flirty or coy about the age difference or outright tease him about it if you can. If your older man thinks the age difference is funny or cute, tease him about it. Make jokes about your curfew or his cane, even though hopefully you have neither.

Prepare yourself for dealing with his emotional baggage. An older guy has likely been with more people and may have an ex-wife or children somewhere. Mentally prepare yourself for those possibilities and let him know you're okay with it.

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  • Make sure that you really like this guy and that the age factor doesn't bother you. If you embark on a relationship and then decide that he's too old for you, you could be hurting someone you care about.


  • Don't go after someone older than you if it's breaking any laws. If you're 15 and the guy's 30, keep looking. It's a little hard to date someone who's in prison!

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