Sometimes it's best not to fall in love with a particular person, and even though we know this, we still have to fight it every step of the way. If you suspect it's not in your best interest to fall in love with someone, even if you feel it's true love, then you'd best find a way to avoid letting it happen. Here are some steps to help you avoid falling in love.
Open your mind and listen to what it is telling you. If you're thinking you would be better off not falling in love with this man, and that you would be wise not to get in a relationship with him, then you'd better listen. Shut down the heart and the libido for a few hours and follow your gut. Listen to your instinct, which is obviously screaming at you from deep inside.
Once you have agreed to listen to your mind rather than your heart or sex drive, take note of why your instinct is screaming. There are some flaws in the mere idea of a relationship with this woman or your intuition wouldn't be crying out to be heard. What are her flaws? When you open your eyes and finally see them, take notes.
When you have your list of defects, think about them. Dwell on them. Maybe they include her temper, her jealousy, her penchant for drama, or her reputation. Now be honest with yourself. These are not qualities, but rather limitations and inabilities.
Silently repeat his flaws over and over when you feel you are about to cave to his charm. Ask yourself what problems could arise from his limitations and think of the worst possible scenarios. Could he become violent? Is it possible he would be abusive? Will there be constant fighting, accusations or cheating? Chances are you're not too far off the mark.
After considering the worst possible scenarios judge if this is the kind of life you wish to live. Do you want a relationship with someone who is going to have a fit due to a little bit of innocent flirting? Do you want a man who will hit you because you spoke to another man at work?
Now that you have considered how your life could become total chaos, tell her you are not interested and avoid her at all cost.
Avoid sappy music. If you are trying to forget about someone, don't listen to silly love songs. Listen to something upbeat. Listen to music that makes you want to get up and move. And keep moving, as far down the path as you can get. The further away you get from her, the better.
Be honest with yourself. Just because you have said you want nothing to do with him doesn't mean you will be able to follow it through. After all, you are falling in love. Now you have to spend time with a good friend who will listen to you whine about giving up that true love. If he is a true friend he will remind you of how fortunate you are to have walked away.
Remember, there is a difference between lust and love, romance and a real relationship. This may not be the match you really want, but merely the attention you crave. Move on. There will be others who will stir your libido and pull at your heart strings, and the next one may be your match. When it happens again, check for flaws, and then decide if you can live with them!
Things You Will Need
- Strong will
- Sense of self preservation
- Very good and patient friend
- Even though you know you should avoid him you will find a major battle going on inside you as you begin to cave. Recall those flaws and force yourself to memorize them.
- These steps may not work for you, but if you find yourself in a horrible situation later on, remember there are ways to get out of it.