A good kiss can make or break a budding relationship. In fact, a 2011 study shows that a majority of men and women have stopped feeling attracted to a potential mate after the first kiss. However, anyone can become a good kisser by paying attention to a few basic guidelines.
Know Your Audience
Men and women want different things when it comes to kissing. Men prefer wetter kisses and like their partners to use their tongues as well as their lips. Women, on the other hand, like softer kisses with less tongue. They are also more focused on good hygiene issues such as fresh breath and well-cared for lips. Good kissers focus on what your partners want rather than what you like.
More Than Just Lips
A good kiss involves more than lips. Pay attention to some of your partner's overlooked erogenous zones. Certified sex therapist Dr. Ava Cadell indicates that women tend to be sensitive on the scalp and the back of the neck. Running your hands through her hair or lightly massaging her neck as you lock lips can add to her pleasure. Similarly, sex coach Amy Levine reminds her clients that men are sensitive on the neck and ears, so gently stroke those areas.
No two people will describe a good kisser exactly the same way, so pay attention to your partner. Be mindful of how she reacts to different kisses. Moving closer to you and wiggling in your arms are signs that she enjoys what you're doing. Also, pay attention to how she kisses you. Humans tend to project their feelings outward so chances are good that the way your partner kisses you is the way she wants to be kissed.
Practice Makes Perfect
This doesn’t mean you should run out and make out with every person you can. Kissing is too intimate to share with just anyone. It makes partners feel closer and connected to each other. This can create a pleasant cycle. The closer your partner feels to you, the more he will enjoy kissing you. And the more he enjoys kissing you, the closer he will feel to you. Kiss your partner often and your kissing will naturally improve
- Jeremy Nicholson, Ph.D.: Reading Basic Body Language
- Rebecca Dube: What Do Men and Women Want When They Kiss?
- Sarah Jio: 7 Forgotten Female Erogenous Zones
- Sarah Jio: 9 Surprsing Male Erogenous Zones
- Dr. Edward A. Dreyfus: Intimacy and Kissing
- Susan M. Hughes and Daniel J. Kruger: Sex Differences in Post-Coital Behaviors in Long- and Short-Term