How to Know When a Boy Is Flirting With You

When you talk to a boy who seems really involved in the conversation, you may wonder if he's just being polite or if there is something more.
Boys flirt in obvious ways.Boys flirt in obvious ways.
Men and boys often use subtle body language when they communicate that can tell you when they are interested. Males don't generally hide their intentions. When you understand spoken and unspoken cues, you can know when a boy is flirting with you.

Observe the boy from a distance, if possible.
When a boy decides he is interested in a girl, he will often begin watching her. If eyes meet, he may hold eye contact for a few seconds longer than normal. The boy may also raise one eyebrow momentarily during eye contact.
Watch the boy's body language.
He may run his fingers through his hair or straighten his clothing. He may also turn his entire body toward you to signal interest. At this point, a boy will usually wait to see if you encourage his interest. If you turn toward him while holding his gaze, he will probably approach you.
Notice the boy's spoken and unspoken signals as you talk.
He may laugh often and lean in toward you as he speaks. If he is flirting, he will usually touch your shoulder or your arm during the conversation. He will watch you intently as you speak, showing great interest in what you are saying. He may stand closer to you than normal to show interest.

Tip

  • Fearing rejection, a boy will usually not approach a girl unless the girl gives him some kind of encouragement. When you notice a boy watching you, if you want him to approach, turn toward him and hold his gaze. This will communicate your interest and give him the encouragement he needs to initiate a conversation.

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Kathryn Hatter is a veteran home-school educator, as well as an accomplished gardener, quilter, crocheter, cook, decorator and digital graphics creator. As a regular contributor to Natural News, many of Hatter's Internet publications focus on natural health and parenting. Hatter has also had publication on home improvement websites such as Redbeacon.

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