How to Break the Ice With a Guy in a Text

Breaking the ice will make it so much easier to be comfortable around a guy.Breaking the ice will make it so much easier to be comfortable around a guy.

The worst part of talking to a guy you like, or a new guy in your life, is breaking the ice. Before breaking the ice you may feel awkward, and your personality may feel contained within a block of ice. To break that cube of ice your personality is contained within, and become closer than ever, there are a few methods you can use with text messages. Using texts to break the ice is easy and can help you avoid embarrassing situations, because you have time to carefully think of things to say.

Send the guy an initial text message. This text message can be as simple as saying hello, or a smiley face. To type a smiley face simply use a colon and parentheses together.

Let him know you are interested in becoming his friend or more by learning about him.

Ease the texts into a conversation after he replies to you. Ask simple, lightweight questions about him such as his favorites, his day, or what he had for lunch.

Causing a conflict or talking about boring subjects may distance the guy.

Avoid serious and boring topics such as work and politics, which may cause conflict. Having conflict will make it much harder to break the ice and become closer, as arguments will cause tension.

Ask him fun questions. For example, inquire about where he would love to travel, pets, and his childhood.

Texting a nice compliment can brighten his day and make him feel a bit closer to you.

Compliment him about something small. If he has a good sense of humor, handsome looks, or a nice shirt, let him know.

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  • When you are feeling more daring, text him something flirty which will spark conversation.

About the Author

Beth Porter has been a writer since 2008, with strong experience in early childhood education, gardening, home living and crafts. Porter is presently attending college, pursuing a Bachelor of Arts in early childhood education at the University of Cincinnati.

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