How Can I Tell If She Likes Me?

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Finding the right person can be an exciting yet daunting task. Out there in the dating world, it can be hard to tell if a person is interested in you. Here are a few tips that will help you to know when a woman is showing that she is attracted to you.

Eye Contact

Usually our first contact with someone is from a distance. We use our eyes to see how others respond to us, to watch for danger and look for opportunity. Eyes actually relay an incredible amount of information subconsciously to other people. Watch for sustained eye contact from the person you are interested in. If you glance at her, and catch her glancing at you, you are on the right track. Women tend to look at a man, then look away or lower their eyes, then look back to see if he is catching the signals. Also, when women are attracted to someone, they tend to open their eyes a bit wider and to blink more often.


Be alert to how and when you are near each other. When a woman is interested, she will usually find ways to be near you. She will choose a seat by you, think of a question to ask you, or find a need for something near you. When a woman is interested in a man, she will get a little closer to him to find out if she should pursue getting to know him.

Body Language

Pay attention to subtle body language. See if she tends to lean in toward you, or position her body in a more open stance toward you. She might point her knees or feet toward you. When a person is interested in someone of the opposite sex, she might touch her face or her own body. She might touch or twirl her own hair, touch her neck or smooth and tend to her clothes. This is a subtle suggestion that she would be open to touching, or being touched by, you.


Be aware of subtle sexual displays. She might lean in to allow a bit more of a view of her breasts or stretch and arrange her legs to attract your attention to her body. A woman will call attention to her hips and waist by putting a hand to her hip or emphasizing the sway in her walk. Subtlety is key here. If a sexual display is too overt, the signal is desperation or insecurity.

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About the Author

Marcy Andersen received a bachelor's degree in education in 1995. She homeschooled her children for eight years, has been active in education for many years, is on the development team for a new charter school, has written her entire life and has belonged to a writers' group for seven years.

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