Dating an intellectual can be an enjoyable experience.
Step 1
Visit bookstores, museums, or a university library. You're more likely to meet someone who enjoys intellectual pursuits in these environments and you already have something to talk about: the book one of you is holding or the exhibit you've both just seen. Consider also taking a university course where you can meet new people who share some of your same interests.
Step 2
Suggest going out for coffee. Coffee is a quick stop and low-stress way of continuing the conversation. While talking, try to gauge if your date is also curious and wants to continue learning. According to HelpGuide.org, smart people who lack curiosity could wither intellectually over time.
Step 3
Show interest and ask questions about subjects your date brings up or has a passion for. Be sure to share your own thoughts and ideas; this is a date and not a lecture. If he or she is not showing interest in your views or is talking more than listening, perhaps it is not a good match.
Step 4
Challenge your date. Go somewhere neither of you has been before so you can share in a new experience. If your date has a view that you disagree with, present your own point of view. Some people feel threatened by intellectuals and accept what they say as fact. That can make for a boring relationship.
Step 5
Show your sense of humor. Discussion based solely on intellectual subjects can get dull regardless how smart either of you is. If you can't make each other laugh, it might not be a good match.
Step 6
Expand your intellectual connection to other aspects of your relationship. Therapist Steve Sisgold stresses the importance of intellectual, emotional and physical intimacy in the article, "How Compatible Are You Two?" published in Psychology Today.
Warning
- Never try to be someone your are not just to impress your date. You will have the best chance of a successful relationship if you date someone who values you and appreciates your own unique qualities.
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