How to Date a Southern Man

Get to know your Southern beau's likes and dislikes.Get to know your Southern beau's likes and dislikes.

Southern men make great husbands, according to sex therapist Ella Patterson. Dating a Southern man requires knowing a little bit about him and his family, in addition to where he grew up. If you listen to him, however, you can find out all the answers.

Step 1

Adopt a sweet, good-natured attitude toward your Southern beau. Vulgar mouths and attitudes may turn off true Southern gentlemen. In her book "Bless His Heart: The GRITS Guide to Living With (Or Just Loving) a Southern Man," Deborah Ford writes that Southern men enjoy soft, graceful dispositions. In addition, a University of Michigan study reported that Southern men take insults more harshly than men from other regions, so it pays to tease when appropriate but always play nice.

Step 2

Read up on his hometown. Understand the history of his old stomping grounds and partake in events with his family. Drop hints about places you would like to see in his Southern town or suggest a day at a park that relates to the history of his hometown.

Step 3

Show your interest in him by listening to his likes and dislikes. Southern recipes like chicken and biscuits or barbecue ribs are great ways to a Southern man's heart, according to Ford. Other interests might include country music, football or NASCAR. However, you should tailor your efforts to your guy's interests. If he has a favorite meal, find a way to prepare that dish for him and show him that you pay attention to his preferences. Plan an evening around a big game at his favorite sports bar or get the family together for a day outing.

Step 4

Allow your Southern man to do things for you. In a report by psychologist Dr. Diane Plummer of Clark Atlanta University in Atlanta, Georgia, Southern men indicated that they treat a woman with the utmost respect and place importance on values. In addition, Ford writes that Southern men want traditional male-female roles, such as a man who opens the door for a woman and fixes the leaky faucet around the house. Patterson suggests that Southern men are more sensitive than Northern men, so be ready to nurture his feelings.

Step 5

Befriend his mother. According to Dr. Gail Rouse, an assistant professor of psychology at Clark Atlanta University, family ties are very important to Southern men because communities in the South share a lot more than they do in the North. In addition, Ford suggests that a Southern man's mother is the next important person to his significant other. Listen to his mother when she is around and find out what she likes; impress her with a gift or a decoration for her home that she would appreciate.

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  • Do not insult a Southern man's lifestyle, mother, family, house, job or car. According to Ford, these are no-fly zones for a Southern man.

About the Author

Karen Adams has been writing professionally since 2003. At the University of Florida, she worked on the school's newspaper while earning her Bachelor of Arts in English. She contributes to many different publications regularly. Currently she lives and works in Florida and is a member of Florida University's Fiction Collective and "Tea Magazine."

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