Dating a twin brings up some special concerns as certain things differ from a relationship with a non-twin that may surprise you. At the very least, the other twin will probably glean intimate knowledge of the relationship, especially if the twins have a close bond. Be prepared for the different scenarios you may encounter and you might just find a great partner.
Approach the twin you wish to date with the knowledge that you'll probably have to impress his sibling. Although a twin is an individual, he is also more likely to view his romantic interest with an eye toward the other twin's feelings. If the other twin thinks that you're lacking, rude or unattractive, the chance of dating is greatly reduced.
Treat your particular interest as an individual, especially if she's an identical twin. Identical twins want to be recognize and treated as unique individuals, according to Elizabeth A. Pector, M.D. An identical twin will greatly resent comparisons to the sibling, or worse, being mistaken for the sibling. By showing that you value her unique attributes, you demonstrate that her personal identity matters and that you're sensitive to what makes her special.
Discuss boundaries within the relationship. Pecter found that twins can feel a lot of guilt for dating if the other sibling isn't also dating. The coupled twin compensates by inviting the other twin for outings. He or she may also tell the uncoupled twin a lot of intimate details because of their close-knit bond. If you value strict confidentiality and private time, make that abundantly clear before dating. Otherwise, be prepared for occasional company and complete disclosure.
- Avoid pursuing a pair of twins for the sake of landing both in bed. Like most others searching for love, twins aren't looking to bring your dirty fantasies to life. They wish to find a mate who values each twin's unique qualities. If you're hunting down twins to create a cool sex story, stop your pursuit and think about the emotional ramifications of your actions.