Dating Tips for Breaking the Ice

Make an effort to generate laughter while on a first date.Make an effort to generate laughter while on a first date.

The start of a new relationship can be an exhilarating -- and undeniably awkward. For many people, first dates bring the inevitable jitters, which can lead to awkward silence or even uncomfortable giggling. Don't let your nervousness impede the start of a successful relationship. Instead, prepare for your date and be ready to break the ice and ward off awkward moments with ease.

Come Prepared

Don't walk into your date "blind.' Take time to plan your first date activities and prepare some first-date topics to discuss. You don't want to follow a script, but it's a good idea to have a few interesting things to talk about in case there's a lull in the conversation. Focus on asking your date questions that are interesting but not too probing. For example, if he's a school teacher, ask him to recall a recent funny moment he experienced with his students in the classroom. This type of simple ice breaker should keep the conversation moving.

Offer a Compliment

Sincere flattery can simultaneously break the ice and flatter your date. However, to establish a genuine connection with your date go beyond the "you're beautiful" or "you look nice" compliments. Maybe her outfit really accentuates her eyes, or you find her laugh infectious. An honest compliment that's not too over-the-top about something specific, can flatter your date and put her at ease. This is likely to make her feel more comfortable with you.

Make Your Nerves Endearing

If you're visibly nervous for your first date, then embrace that feeling. The most awkward thing you can do is try and downplay the fact that you are visibly nervous. If your hands won't stop shaking, make a joke about it. If you feel anxious and can't calm yourself down, admit to your date that first dates always make you nervous. Chances are your date is also nervous. Your honesty about it will be comforting. Together, you can laugh off your nervousness. This will break the ice.

Find a Common Interest

Remember that you are on this date for a reason -- either you clicked when you first met, friends set you up, or perhaps you flirted with each other online. Find common interests to guide your conversation and look ahead to future encounters. Do a little research to find out something about your date before you get together. Ask friends about the activities she enjoys, or the sports teams he likes. If you share a similar interest, then talk about it. Don't fake your interest, though -- only connect through common interests if you both genuinely have.

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About the Author

Barbie Carpenter worked as a technical writer and editor in the defense industry for six years. She also served as a newspaper feature page editor and nationally syndicated columnist for the Hearst Corp. Carpenter holds a Bachelor of Science in journalism from the University of Florida and a graduate certificate in professional writing from the University of Central Florida.

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