Ask direct questions about his feelings. Is he looking for a committed relationship or just casual dating? If partners are looking for different things it may be time to reevaluate the relationship. A man who pulls away and comes back frequently engages in what is called a partial relationship, says psychotherapist Rhonda Findling in her article, "Tips On Dealing With Difficult Men," on the A Love Links Plus.com website. If the woman desires something long term, she should tell him and discuss what the future holds.
Show patience and understanding for his feelings. A man who gets close emotionally and then pulls away may have a fear of intimacy, says psychotherapist Sheri Jacobson in her article, "Five Ways to Deal With an Intimacy Phobic Person," found on the PsychCentral website. A fear of intimacy can develop after a childhood trauma, such as his parents' divorce. The woman can encourage the man to face relationship fears by assuring him that she is supportive of him and his feelings.
Seek couples counseling together. Counselors act as mediators for a couple with relationship issues, such as one partner pulling away. Through counseling, both partners can understand why each acts certain ways and how to resolve issues within the relationship. Perhaps the woman has always found herself in codependent relationships. Maybe the man has had commitment issues related to a bad break-up that happened years ago. Counseling is a great place for both partners to open up, share issues and find resolutions.