Both men and women can become possessive with friends or with mates, and they may do so for a variety of underlying reasons. If you are in a relationship of any kind with a woman and she gets upset when you hang out with other people, wants to dictate much of your life for you and gets paranoid about minor things, you are probably with a possessive woman. This can lead to an unhealthy and unhappy relationship, but you can change the course of the relationship so things get better and not worse.
Develop a healthy emotional detachment from her. You do this by reminding yourself as often as necessary that she is responsible for her moods, her paranoia and her insecurity. You cannot control how another person chooses to feel.
Tell the woman how her possessiveness makes you feel. Some people are not aware that they are being possessive. Some even believe that behaving in that way is a sign they really care. She may not even know the negative impact her behavior is having. If she does know and is just so insecure or controlling that she doesn’t care how you feel, it may be time to end the relationship.
Set boundaries in the relationship. Examples of this can include not answering the phone each time she calls, if she calls to check on you several times a day. Most people require space and time to be alone without interruptions from a possessive partner. The possessive woman needs to respect this.
Reassure her of your love or friendship. Some people become possessive simply because they worry too much that the partner or friend will leave.
- Possessiveness may also be a form of emotional abuse. If the woman does not alter her behavior for the better after you have discussed it with her, you should strongly consider ending the relationship for your own emotional health.