How to Decide If He's the Right Man for You

Trust, honesty and communication are essential to a stable lasting relationship.Trust, honesty and communication are essential to a stable lasting relationship.

When madly in love, it can become difficult to know if your partner is indeed "Mr. Right" or simply "Mr. Right Now." When it comes to deciding if your partner is the one for you, it is essential that you are honest with yourself. If you can see yourself building a loving and lasting relationship built on trust, respect, honesty and shared values he may be the right man for you.

List his attributes

Step 1

Create a list of his positive and negative attributes. Determine how important the positive attributes are to your happiness and well-being and whether any of the negatives are deal breakers.

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Step 2

Ask your friends and family what they think about him. Since these are the people who only want what is best for you, their opinion can help you take an honest look at your relationship.

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Step 3

Consider how much you have in common. Ask yourself if you and your partner have the same beliefs and values, and whether the two of you are truly compatible.

Think about how he treats you

Step 4

Think about how he treats you and how he makes you feel. Ask yourself if your partner makes you feel secure, respected and loved. If he treats you like a queen and respects you, asks yourself if you feel the same way about him.

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Step 5

Determine whether or not you trust him. Trust and honesty are two of the most important factors when it comes to developing a positive and lasting relationship. Ask yourself if you trust your partner to be completely honest with you.

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  • Ask yourself if you would be comfortable with your sister or best friend dating someone like him. If someone like him is not deserving of your friends or family, he is not deserving of you.

About the Author

Based in Los Angeles, Calif., Kiki Michelle has been writing health-related articles since 2007. Her work has appeared in "Environmental Science and Technology Magazine." Michelle holds a Bachelor of Arts in human biology from Stanford University.

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