Your awareness of who you are despite those around you is a clear indicator of confidence, notes psychologist Mark White, author of "Does Everyone Find Confidence Attractive?" on the Psychology Today website.
While you don't want to overdo it and come off as arrogant, confidence may make those around you see you as more of a social asset. Make eye contact, hold your head high and try to speak clearly to those around you. If you can, plan events or start conversations yourself to portray this confidence. And if you don’t feel confident enough, do it anyway. Trying is the first step toward being more desirable; over time you will get more comfortable in this new role.
Physical health is closely related to attractiveness, note researchers Joseph Nedelec and Kevin Beaver in a study titled, “Physical Attractiveness as a Phenotypic Marker of Health,” which was published in Evolution and Human Behavior in 2014.
Take time to care for your body, whether it’s eating more healthfully, exercising or reducing your stress levels. Feeling more comfortable in your own, healthier skin will improve your confidence as well, making you feel more desirable even as others find you more attractive.
Helping behaviors make the doer more attractive to those around him, reports a 2013 study titled “Selflessness Is Sexy,” published in Evolutionary Biology.
This is likely because helping other people is subconsciously seen as a benefit to future children and long-term relationships. To be more desired, hold open doors, help a potential lover take care of a pet or invite a few friends to hit the food bank to organize donations. Not only will helping others make you more desirable, but you will likely feel better about yourself as well.
One surefire way to feel more desirable is to tell yourself you are more desirable.
If negative thoughts arise that say, “I’m not attractive,” immediately replace that thought with a positive one, such as, “I am desirable and I am worth loving. ” Over time, the negative thoughts will decrease as you learn to change those thought patterns.
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- Evolution and Human Behavior: Physical Attractiveness as a Phenotypic Marker of Health: An Assessment Using a Nationally Representative Sample of American Adults
- BMC Evolutionary Biology: Selflessness Is Sexy: Reported Helping Behaviour Increases Desirability of Men and Women as Long-term Sexual Partners
- Psychology Today: Does Everyone Find Confidence Attractive?