Don't think you only need to be beautiful in order to get a man. Attracting a guy with your looks is only half the challenge. If you don't have the other qualities that he's looking for he'll eventually walk away, as anyone knows who has been dumped by a guy only to find that he is dating someone less attractive. Every man has a different wish list. But most men have a few basics that they want in a partner and the more qualities you have, the more likely you are to attract the right guy and be able to hold his attention. So here are the secrets to knowing what men want, in eight easy steps.
GIVE THE MAN WHAT HE WANTS. If you think the answer to what men want is sex, you are right in one respect. Yes, all men want sex. But sex flows freely these days. If your body is your only card on the table, you haven't got much to offer. When he's tired of the sex with you, he'll be moving on. Don't be naive and think that if you're good in bed that will hold him. No matter how good you are, some other woman can be just as satisfying, just as inventive. Men can get bored with a woman if the only thing she has to offer is sex. No matter how many times he tells you that it is the best sex he's ever had, eventually he will get the urge to move on if you don't interest him beyond the bedroom.
HAVE A PLEASANT AND WARM PERSONALITY. Having a pleasant personality does not mean that you are a pushover. It means that you have a smile that surfaces easily; you don't let a lot of things bother you; you genuinely like people and respond to them warmly. Show that you're are compassionate towards others, open to different viewpoints without being harshly opinionated, and pleasant when everyone else is losing their temper. Sounds impossible, doesn't it? But that's what men want. A woman who is strong in her sense of self, not critical of others, and forgiving when things go wrong, is an asset. Even though it may seem like it's the bitches who are getting the rich men, remember that getting them is not the point. Keeping a man is the goal.
BE ABLE TO HOLD A CONVERSATION ABOUT THINGS OF INTEREST TO HIM. In order to carry on an interesting conversation, you must have interesting ideas in your head. You need to read books and not just fiction. You need to be able to hold up your end of the conversation or at least be knowledgeable about a variety of topics. You will find that some people talk about other people. It is better to talk about ideas, books, or current events. Of course, most people indulge in gossip at some point or another, but you should not. It looks shallow, small minded, and petty. Nothing cools a connection faster than a woman who has nothing to talk about except gossip. Can you talk about more things than what Brittney Spears or Paris Hilton did last night? If you don't read the newspaper or the news online, start now. Try subscribing to a national magazine, like Newsweek or New Yorker Magazine. Reading People Magazine does not count. If you can't afford magazine subscriptions, read then at the library. You need to be aware of national issues, politics, current affairs, and other topics of interest if you want to hold a conversation with a quality man.
KNOW HOW TO COOK. You might not take this seriously if you believe that wealthy people eat out all the time. But rich men also want to be able to stay home and have a home cooked meal. They want their wives to be able to cook for friends and business associates. They want traditional holiday meals with all the trimmings. Ordering in or going out to dinner gets tiring after a while and a man wants to be able to enjoy his own home. If you can't cook, get yourself a beginner cookbook, or take a class and learn. There's no excuse for not knowing how to use an oven or follow a recipe.
BE ABLE TO GET ALONG WITH ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE. Do you genuinely like people? Can you walk into a room full of strangers and find something of interest to talk about? If you can not do these things, learn. Read the book by Dale Carnegie, "How to Win Friends and Influence People." It's a great way to learn how to get along with others, even if you don't think alike. Meeting and enjoying the company of strangers is an important trait if you are planning on dating rich men. Why? Because so much of what they do involves people. Social events are a staple in a rich man's world. Be it charity events, business dinners, or relaxing with friends, you will be expected to socialize with people of different ages and backgrounds than you. Not only must you have the gift of delightful conversation and the ability to put strangers at ease, your manners must be impeccable. If you're not sure about your manners, get an updated etiquette book and read it from cover to cover. Some good ones are: Emily Post's Etiquette, 17th Edition by Peggy Post or Etiquette For Dummies by Sue Fox. If you can't get along with the people in a rich man's life, you will be seen as a liability rather than an asset. If you are friendly and other people are easily drawn to you, he will be drawn to you, too.
TAKE AN INTEREST IN HIS HOBBIES AND BE WILLING TO TRY NEW THINGS. Men love their hobbies whether it's basketball, fishing, skydiving or playing video games, and they want you to love what they love. Instead of sitting on the sidelines looking bored, a healthy attitude for life is necessary when dating rich men. You must be willing to try new foods, go to new countries, meet people of different cultures and learn other languages. A love of learning is necessary to keep your mind fresh and him interested.
YOU'LL NEED TO HAVE PATIENCE AND TOLERANCE. If you are not a patient person, don't think about dating wealthy men. Successful men often put themselves first, their business second and their women third. You might come first for a few weeks, but after a while, other priorities will take over. If you don't believe this, you're in for a big disappointment. If he's late for your dates, takes phone calls that interrupt your your dinners and your alone time, you'll have to understand. Wealthy men usually have several things going on in their lives at one time. If you can not tolerate his obnoxious business associate who hustles you, his clients who come first, or his busy work and social calendar, then you are not the kind of person who should consider dating rich men.
BE GRATEFUL AT ALL TIMES. No matter what he does for you, be grateful. The smallest gesture should be noticed and appreciated. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is expecting a lot from a man, but appreciating little.