Her Self Worth
A woman who has recently been divorced can sometimes suffer from low self-esteem. She must identify her positive character traits and develop a routine for reminding her of these, such as making a list and hanging it on her refrigerator or calendar. When a woman determines that she is worthy of love it will be easier for her to identify prospects who see those same qualities in her.
She must first make a decision on the traits she finds most desirable. For example is spontaneity more important or is does she prefer a man who is more predictable and requires a schedule for daily living. She has to consider her potential mate's background. Will a difference in religious beliefs or lack thereof cause strife between the couple? Do either one or you have children or could possibly want children in the future?
After she decides what she wants, she can move on to deciding what she does not want. Determining pleasing attributes can sometimes prove to be the most challenging part of finding a lifelong mate. For example she may find romantic, over-the-top gestures quite attractive, but a bad temper unattractive. There are some qualities in a mate that simply are not tolerable, and she must know her own boundaries before entering into a relationship if she wants it to prosper and grow.
Online dating is now a very popular way to meet someone with whom you are compatible. To be safe with online dating, certain rules should be followed. All personal information should be protected. All first-time meetings should be in a public place that is well lit with several people nearby, such as a restaurant. Photos should be obtained. A reputable dating service should be chosen. And most importantly, a woman should always follow her instincts.
Women who have been divorced can take comfort in reassuring themselves that their life can be an active, flourishing life without a mate. Planning daily activities is a great way to do all of the activities that you wanted to do but was never afforded the opportunity. It is also a great way to make daily connections with others and establish new friendships. New relationships have not even the slightest chance of being born if there is no exposure to new faces.