Emotional Attraction Triggers

Good or bad emotional attraction correlates with self-esteem.Good or bad emotional attraction correlates with self-esteem.

Movies make falling in love seem easy, but there is much more going on between to real people. While hormones and pheromones may stimulate biological attraction, emotional attraction hints at how a relationship between you might feel or enhance your life in ways you might not yet understand, suggests relationship therapists Linda and Charlie Bloom in "The Hidden Sources of Attraction" for Psychology Today. Emotional attraction reveals the needs and hopes of your heart.


Good emotional attraction starts with making the other person feel good about herself. Compliments can trigger someone's positive emotional attraction for you because you are enhancing her self-esteem. When you couple that with flirting, it shows the other person how much you like and respect her. Don't just compliment the other person's looks. Compliment her intelligence or something unique about her that stands out to you. Chances are you will get a compliment in return.


Eye contact and gazing can also be emotional triggers. While you don't want to outright stare at someone, looking at him for two or three seconds intensely and then looking away signals that you are interested in knowing more about him. If he gazes back at you and your eyes meet, it can be an intimate shared experience. Gazing with moist eyes or dilated pupils shows someone is emotionally attracted to you, according to Divorce Help Clinic founder Nancy Fagan, writing for "BBW Magazine."

Body Language

How you hold your body generates positive and negative emotions. People who stand up straight with open arms are more likely to be approached and will attract more positive emotions than an introvert who slouches, looks down and crosses his arms on his chest. To trigger emotional attraction, turn your body toward that person. If he touches you repeatedly or his hand lingers on your shoulder, it says he likes you, according to Fagan.

Positive Outlook

Your personality will usually shine through your body language, so it is important to have a positive attitude. Negative attitudes are likely to demonstrate that you may not be there for her in a time of need and that she should not depend on you. If you look at difficult situations with a positive frame of mind, people are more likely to respect you and see you as a strong individual.

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About the Author

Maria Woehr is a journalist with over 10 years of professional writing experience. She started editing in 2006 and has been published in "The Westfield Leader Times," "Insurance & Technology Magazine," "InformationWeek," "Positive Thinking Magazine," "Go Magazine," "The Deal," "The Financial Times" and many other outlets. She is a graduate of Boston University and has a master's degree from Drew University.

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