How to Flirt With a Girl on a Date

Flirting can be fun.Flirting can be fun.

So, you have a date with a special girl and are really looking forward to it. You undoubtedly hope that the date ends with her thinking that you are witty and charming and wish, most of all, that you both have a good time. If you are drawn to her, try a little flirting while you are on your date. Flirting sends a signal that says "I am interested in you," and once you learn how to flirt, it can be a lot of fun.

Step 1

Greet your date with a small bouquet of flowers, or even a single flower, to set the tone of the date with romantic interest and an element of surprise, which most girls love. Watch her face light up when you present your date with this thoughtful gesture.

Step 2

Smile with your eyes when you are on your date -- this simply means letting your interest in her shine through your eye contact with her. Looking at her with a genuine smile on your face when she speaks shows her that you are interested in what she has to say.

Step 3

Create some physical gestures that show your flirty side. Hold her elbow briefly as you guide her to your car or along a sidewalk. Reach out and move a tendril of hair from her face and compliment her on her hair color or hair style.

Step 4

Speak in a voice that is neither too boisterous, nor too soft. Lean in close to her to share conversation, with your heads almost touching.

Step 5

Scoot your chair next to hers so that you can be closer to each other and -- but only if she welcomes it -- and gently rub her back in a circular motion with the hand nearest to her for no more than one minute.

Step 6

Drape your arm lightly over the back of her seat and gently run your fingertips along the top of her shoulder in 10- to 20-second intervals for no more than one minute -- or hold her hand for a timeless, yet intimate, gesture.

Step 7

Show confidence in yourself by speaking positively of your accomplishments, without bragging of course, and casually mention things you have done that demonstrate your leadership skills and future aspirations or goals. Ask your date what her aspirations or goals are as well, and you may be on your way to a discussion that will illuminate your shared passions, leading to actual passion -- for each other.

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  • If your date protests to any of your advances or gestures, immediately cease and apologize profusely.

About the Author

Karen Nehama is a former chef and restaurant manager, currently serving as editor of a food review and recipe website. With expertise as a youth adviser, she is also a consultant for a teen advice column.

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