How to Flirt Through Text Messages

The right text message can make his day.The right text message can make his day.

Text messaging is the flirtation tool of the millennium and it's quickly becoming a major part of communication in a relationship. Gone are the days when a crush would call to ask about your day. Now he--or she--sends you a text message. Let your potential sweetheart know you're ready to play the game by flirting right back on your cellphone.

Step 1

Make smiley faces or frowny faces so your guy or girl knows your current mood. Instead of saying that you're happy or sad, let an emoticon speak for you. It takes the place of him being able to read your tone or expression.

Step 2

Use nicknames or pet names whenever possible -- it lets the other person know you're thinking about him or her. Use the same special name you do in person, whether it's "sweetie," "darling" or "honey."

Step 3

Wait for the other person to respond before you send another message. Give him time to respond. He might be right in the middle of something important so he can't whip his phone out to see what you said. It doesn't mean that he's ignoring you, so don't jump to conclusions and continue texting until he answers.

Step 4

Ask how he feels or what he's doing if you send a text message that seems a little off the cuff. If he's trying to figure out a way to respond, this will help him along.

Step 5

Act cute and flirty whenever possible and say the same things you would if the person was there in front of you. Think of something that will grab his attention right off the bat.

Step 6

Try flirting early in the morning or late at night, or any other time when the other person might not be expecting it. This puts you front and center in his mind, and you'll make sure he's thinking of you as he starts his day or falls asleep.

Step 7

Be the first one to end the conversation every now and then. Tell him you need to go somewhere or do something. It will keep him guessing and wondering what you're up to when you're not with him.

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  • Don't let text messaging become the only way you ever flirt with your significant other. Make sure you still talk on the phone and flirt in person whenever you can.
  • Skip using numbers to spell out words unless you're still in high school. You want that special person in your life to think you're fun and cool, not immature.


  • There's a line between appropriate text messaging and inappropriate messaging. If you plan on crossing that line, make sure you delete the messages from both your inbox and outbox, or be careful about who has access to your phone.
  • Don't automatically assume that others know Internet language. You might say "brb," thinking he'll know that you'll "be right back" -- and he probably will. But brevity can invite disaster if it's misunderstood.
  • Don't drink and text. You might send a drunken text message thinking you sound cute and funny, but you're far more likely to be silly, belligerent or annoying, all things that can be a turn-off.

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