Flirting Tips for Ladies

Flirting is an effective way to capture a man's attention and break the ice with someone you've just met. While some women are natural flirts, others find it challenging. If flirting with men makes you nervous, don't despair. Flirting is a skill that becomes easier with practice.

Be Approachable

Wear something that makes you feel feminine and flirtatious. Find an outfit that flatters your figure and highlights your best features. Avoid sloppy or disheveled clothing. Show a little skin, but not too much. The goal is flirtation, not seduction.

Be sure to appear approachable. If you are out with a group of girlfriends, separate from them before attempting to flirt with someone. Men can be intimidated by a group of women and may worry about being rejected in front of your friends.

Smile often. Smiling makes you appear confident and approachable. In addition, keep your body language open and friendly.

Capture His Attention

To get a man's attention, you can either be coy and wait for him to approach you, or be bold and make the first move. Some men are intimidated by a bold woman, but others find it refreshing, as it eases the pressure on them.

To get a man to approach you, make eye contact with him and smile. See if he appears interested in you. If so, quickly look away, and then glance back at him after a moment or two. According to, if he is interested in you and is courageous, he will approach you and initiate a conversation.

Making the first move requires a bit more confidence. First, make eye contact with him and see if he seems interested. Then, walk towards him, smile and start a conversation. You can do this by either complimenting him, or finding an excuse to talk to him. Ask him for the time or to borrow a pen, and see if he seems interested in you. If so, take it from there.

Keep the Sparks Flowing

When talking to a man you've just met, be sure to laugh at his jokes and steer the conversation towards him. Men love talking about themselves. Ask him open-ended questions, and listen attentively when he answers them. Above all, be yourself. If you try to act like someone you aren't, your confidence will plummet.

If the conversation is flowing smoothly, and you feel bold, try lightly touching his arm or wrist when laughing at one of his jokes or making a point in the conversation.

If he asks for your telephone number, give it to him only if you are truly interested in dating him. If you aren't, don't give him your number and ignore his calls or, worse, give him a fake number. Just thank him for the enjoyable conversation and excuse yourself cordially.

If you don't succeed on your first try, don't give up. Perfecting your flirting technique takes time. The more often you flirt, the more your confidence grows, and that's the true key to successful flirting.

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About the Author

Based in Southern California, Dawn Thiery has been a professional writer since 2000. She has a background in web content management and corporate communications, and also writes for political and technology-related blogs. Dawn has a Bachelor of Arts in English literature from Chapman University in Orange, California.

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