How to Get an Online Guy to Like You

You just met what could be the perfect guy online, but you just don’t know what to do next. You know that you want him to like you and hopefully take you out in the real world. If you want to get an online guy to like you, think about how you would react in the real world and focus on him.

Pick one instant messaging program and stick to it. There are several different programs out there, but if you keep jumping back and forth it can be confusing. It can also be confusing to him if you have several screen names. Instead pick one and only talk to him on that one.

Focus on him when chatting online. Have you ever been talking to a friend and it took them several minutes to respond to something you said? Don’t be that annoying person, but focus on him. Answer his questions/comments right away and he’ll know that you’re making him important.

Send him a special picture with something like you holding up a sign that says “hi” with his name on it. Snap a picture with your webcam and send it to him the next time you’re chatting when he isn’t expecting it. He’ll get a kick out of the fact that you did something just for him.

Offer to move things offline and into the real world by sending him your phone number. An online guy can only become a real life boyfriend if someone’s willing to make the first move and that might as well be you. Just let him know that you’d love to hear his voice and he’ll love you for it.

Be flirty and learn how to make the smiley faces in your instant messenger program. It can be hard to act flirtatious online, but you can do it. Type out the same things you would say if he was sitting in front of you and send him a little smiley face kiss or hug when he’s having a bad day.

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  • Ask questions about his life and try to learn more about him. Later when you ask him how a test went or if he had fun on his guys night, he’ll know that you’re paying attention and remembering the little things.


  • Don’t meet a guy offline until you’ve gotten to know him and always do it in a safe environment. There are too many horror stories about what happens to girls who met guys in the real world without any supervision.

About the Author

Jennifer Eblin has been a full-time freelance writer since 2006. Her work has appeared on several websites, including Tool Box Tales and Zonder. Eblin received a master's degree in historic preservation from the Savannah College of Art and Design.

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