How to Get the Girl You've Been Chasing Forever

Being genuine can help you go the distance in dating.Being genuine can help you go the distance in dating.

Telling your crush that you really like her can be quite daunting. Just the mere thought of rejection is enough to want to live a life of unrequited love. It sounds dramatic, but to the lovelorn this drama is a reality. Finding just the right time, place and circumstance to reveal your feelings is challenging, and when you are afraid, there is no time that just feels right. Instead, take the right steps to make the task a little easier.

Ending the Chase

Step 1

Be yourself. Chances are, singing her a song in public sounds romantic, but may not be genuine for you. Don't change the person you are. A "what you see is what you get" approach can be much more appealing in this situation. Instead of acting like you think you should, just act like who you really are.

Step 2

Use a smooth approach. Compliments or small talk can be a foot in the door for your dating life. Tell her how great her new haircut looks. Let her know you like the new outfit or her new perfume. These simple things will make her heart flutter and can be more appealing than a direct approach.

Step 3

Ask her out. See if she'll be your date for a night on the town or an intimate dinner. If this girl is already a friend of yours, you have an advantage. You will know the things she likes to do, for instance the type of movie she likes. There's nothing more attractive to a girl than a guy who cares enough to notice just what she likes and dislikes.

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  • Don't get discouraged. She might not read the signals right away, or she may be just as shy as you are.
  • If it doesn't work out, don't take it personal. There are other prospects. Take time to get over it, and move on.

About the Author

Theresa Smith began writing in 1998, working on material for employee-assistance programs. She has experience as a counselor and criminal law paralegal. She contributes to eHow, focusing on mental health and legal topics. Smith has a Bachelor of Science in business from Chicago State University and is pursuing a Master of Science in clinical psychology from Columbia Southern University.

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