How to Give a Romantic Massage

Giving your partner a romantic massage is a simple yet effective way to show him how much you care. With a little preparation you can turn your bedroom into a relaxing paradise. A romantic massage will not only soothe tired muscles and refresh weary minds, it will also promote a deep sense of intimacy and unity in your relationship.

Prepare the bed. Lay a freshly washed sheet over the bed. Place a few drops of your favourite essential oil at the top of the sheet where your partner's head will rest. Ylang-ylang, in essential oil form, will act as an aphrodisiac. Place a few neatly folded towels on the bed within reach for spills.

Set the mood. Dim the lights, light a few candles, then turn on some relaxing music. The music should be playing at a soothing volume, not too loud. Make sure the candles are not producing too many conflicting scents in the room. The essential oil on the sheet should be the dominate scent.

Change into your sexiest lingerie or robe. Silk garments are a good choice because as you give the massage the silk fabric will brush against the skin adding to the sensation of the romantic massage. Of course choosing to give the massage in the nude is always another popular option!

Begin the massage. Have her lay on the bed face down with her arms in a comfortable position. Pour a small amount of massage oil into your hands and rub them together to warm the oil. Begin the romantic massage at the shoulders working your way down and out towards the hands, feet and head. Use the towels if necessary to remove any excess oil or to wipe up spills.

Add some sensuality. Use slow, firm strokes making sure you touch him with your body as much as possible during the massage. Gently kiss his neck, shoulders, hands, and feet as you move from one area of his body to the next. Concentrate on areas that you know he enjoys having massaged.

Finish the massage. Have her turn over and massage the front in the same manner as the back. By this time things may be heating up a bit and your romantic massage may turn into a sensual lovemaking session. That's OK! Relax and enjoy this wonderful time of intimacy with the one your love.

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Things You Will Need

  • Massage Oil
  • Essential Oils
  • Candles
  • Relaxing Music
  • Sexy Lingerie


  • Make sure you get ready for the massage while your partner is away to maintain an element of surprise.
  • Keep the room at a comfortable temperature. Not too cold and not too hot.
  • Don't use too much essential oil. Essential oils are very concentrated and can quickly become overpowering. A little goes a long way!


  • Sometimes after all of our preparations our romantic massage doesn't turn out as planned. Remember your goal is to provide a special treat for your mate. If he wants to take the massage in a different direction, go with the flow. Don't let your romantic massage turn into a lovers' quarrel.

About the Author

Kim Linton is a political analyst, computer technician and ministry advocate who has been writing for the Web since 2001. Her work has been featured on major news sites including "The Wall Street Journal" and "USA Today," and has been published on a variety of niche sites including "Woman's Day" and "Intel." Linton holds degrees in business and marketing from Indiana University.

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