How to Find a Good Boyfriend

The teen years are a tumultuous time of finding your identity.
It is important to know yourself before you find a boyfriend.It is important to know yourself before you find a boyfriend.
Part of this process involves making and breaking relationships with the opposite sex. Dating helps young adults learn more about themselves and what to expect in future relationships. Girls usually mature faster than boys and are ready for an exclusive relationship sooner. Girls often lament the shortage of mature, attractive boys. Finding a good boyfriend means knowing yourself and understanding what you need and want from the relationship.

Look critically at the relationships around you.
Note which of your girlfriends seem to have the best relationships and identify what makes them so good.
Identify the type of boys you are most attracted to.
Ask yourself which personality characteristics are most important to you. For example, is it more important that the boy is generous and buys you presents, or is it more important that he be an extroverted, social person with many friends?
Attend as many social situations as possible to increase your chances of meeting the right boy.
Look for opportunities beyond parties, such as church picnics, extracurricular events at school, and community or volunteer activities.
Accept dates from a variety boys; don't limit yourself to those who are the most physically attractive.
Boys who may not stand out physically can possess inner qualities -- such as loyalty and trustworthiness -- that make them the best boyfriends. Avoid superficial judgments; even though a boy may not wear the trendiest clothes, he might be "the one. "
Examine you own behavior once you start dating someone.
If you want a boyfriend who is kind, generous and trusting, make sure you exhibit these same traits toward him.

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About the Author

Freddie Silver started writing newsletters for the Toronto District School Board in 1997. Her areas of expertise include staff management and professional development. She holds a master's degree in psychology from the University of Toronto and is currently pursuing her PhD at the Ontario Institute for Studies in Education, focusing on emotions and professional relationships.