How to Get a Guy Who Is Out of Your League

Just because he may seem out of your league doesn't mean you don't stand a chance at a relationship with him.Just because he may seem out of your league doesn't mean you don't stand a chance at a relationship with him.

If a guy is "out of your league" it may mean several things; he is more popular than you are, more physically attractive to the opposite sex, or even just older than you are. However, circumstances do not have to dictate who is and who is not in your league. Even if the guy you have your eye on is very physically attractive, your confidence can catch his eye. Even if you are not the typical thin, blonde and perfectly manicured model, you can still take care of yourself and hold yourself well. There are several general tips to get a guy who is out of your league.

Show confidence. This is one of the most attractive qualities a member of the opposite sex can have, because it demonstrates that you see yourself as valuable and worthwhile. Confidence alone can sometimes be enough to make a person attractive. This one trait will cause people to overlook many flaws; if you do not see those flaws as a problem, others won't either. So what if you aren't as slim as some girls, or you have a few blemishes on your skin? The confidence you have will cause the guy you like to overlook these imperfections and see a valuable, intriguing woman.

Develop a passion. A passionate person is very attractive because she is full of life, direction and drive. A passionate woman gets men's attention because she shows that she has a lot to live for, goals and ambition, and motivation to get what she wants. Even if you think a guy is out of your league, your passion may catch his eye. Are you into theater? Pour all you have into an audition, and make it on stage. Are you interested in music? Spend time singing or mastering an instrument. It is even better if the guy you like is passionate about the same thing you are. People who have interests in common have something to talk about on a date.

Be independent. Even though you would love to get to know this guy and spend some time with him doing what he loves, it is important that you maintain a sense of self. Women who have their own lives and are interested in their own activities are very attractive to men. If the two of you were ever to get into a relationship, it would be important that you both had a sense of space and independence to be able to bring something to the table. If neither of you had an identity apart from each other, the relationship would be dull and uninteresting. Make sure you know who you are and flaunt it --- this will catch his attention and keep it.

Take care of yourself. Women who put effort into their physical appearance are attractive to men, who are often very visual. While there are certain features you cannot change about yourself, you can learn how to eat healthy foods and exercise regularly. Not only this, but treating your body the way you should will give you confidence that comes from treating yourself with respect and care --- and this is definitely a quality that men look for in a woman.

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  • Always value yourself and what you can bring to a relationship. You are worthwhile and special, and remembering your worth will help you keep perspective when it comes to dating.


  • Do not be domineering trying to get a guy to notice you. If you follow all the steps and are your own person, either he will take notice -- or he is not the right guy for you.

About the Author

Kristen Moutria has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Evangel University. She is currently pursuing her Master of Arts in education from the University of Nebraska.

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