How to Handle a Breakup With Dignity

The ending of a relationship, whether it is short or long-term, is a devastating event in a person's life. According to Help Guide's Dr. Jeanne Segal, the pain of a breakup not only stems from the loss of what has been, but also the demise of any future. This will lead some to act in an undignified matter. Ending a relationship with grace and dignity will allow you to move on with your head held high, knowing you acted maturely.

Step 1

Remain honest if you are the one breaking off the relationship. Do not give the person an overused line, such as "It's not you, it's me," or "I need time to focus on work." Instead, show the other person how much you still respect him by being honest. Answer any questions the former partner asks, and give truthful answers.

Step 2

Walk away from the breakup without shouting or lashing out in anger. Avoid breaking down in front of your former partner, yelling or using physical violence. Step out of the situation and vent your feelings to a friend or family member.

Step 3

Stay away from your ex-mate until you have time to fully heal. This includes phone calls, meetings or texts. Keep your distance to avoid the temptation to plead for reconciliation or to pour salt on old wounds.

Step 4

Avoid bad-mouthing your former spouse or mate. When someone asks you about the breakup, inform her that it is true and leave it alone. Do not offer anyone but your closest confidants information about the relationship.

Step 5

Seek healthy outlets for your grief. Speak to a counselor, take up a new hobby or concentrate on the other aspects of your life, such as family, friends and work. Avoid using alcohol or drugs to ease your pain.

Step 6

Allow an acceptable amount of time to pass before dating other people. Depending on the situation, this could be anywhere from three weeks to six months. Once you are dating someone new, do not flaunt this person around your ex-partner, especially if he is still in pain from the relationship.

Step 7

Attempt to reconnect with the person on a friendship level once the pain and anger have dissipated. Reach out to the person and explain that you still want to be friends. Be prepared for the person to say no, or for the possibility he has also moved on with another person.

View Singles Near You

Click Here

About the Author

Residing in Chippewa Falls, Wis., Jaimie Zinski has been writing since 2009. Specializing in pop culture, film and television, her work appears on Star Reviews and various other websites. Zinski is pursuing a Bachelor of Arts in history at the University of Wisconsin.

Cite this Article A tool to create a citation to reference this article Cite this Article