Introduction Ideas for Internet Dating

A UCLA study discerned that people make judgments about each other by using the three Vs, which are visual, vocal and verbal cues, as put forth by the Online Dating Magazine website. In the world of Internet dating, the typical cue is textual. You have only so many lines to introduce yourself to a stranger. To set the right tone for that initial contact, you should leverage humor, express interest in the other person and find ways to make yourself interesting.

Apply Wit and Humor

Insert wit or humor into your introduction. There is nothing more infectious and charming that being able to make someone laugh. Tasteful humor will certainly draw someone's attention. If you make a joke in a self-deprecating way, do it lightly as if you're not serious. An inside joke about a shared interest or a joke about current events can set the right tone for communication from the outset.

Exhibit Originality

Pull out a thesaurus and use original words to replace weary lines, such as "I just peeked at your profile and thought it would be a good idea to..." Think of language as a cloak. If the cloth is drab and gray, it won't attract attention. Similarly, colorful language hints of a vibrant personality. If you meet someone in person for the first time, you'd wear something distinct and stylish to set you apart from the crowd. The same rule of thumb applies to a text introduction online, only you're using words to distinguish yourself.

Share Interests

Reveal bits of information about your hobbies, religious beliefs, political leanings or interests in various causes. Try not to inundate the person with too much information, because it may turn that person off. The more you share in common with a potential mate, the more you can touch upon the particulars of an interest and start a thread of conversation. If you have a shared love of gardening, you can talk about new planting techniques or the latest stretch of bad weather in your introduction.

Share What Everyone Has Felt

Be a lightning rod for universal subtext, or saying what everyone has felt or feels, such as "I'm bored." Everyone has experienced periods of boredom or procrastination or anxiety over taking the next step. A hint of human vulnerability can swing open the door to more conversation. Talk about how you have always wanted to try paragliding but a jump at any height above the knee can be daunting. Who has not had second thoughts about stepping out of an airplane in mid-air? Who has not procrastinated on a mandated task? When admitting a flaw, keep it lighthearted.

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About the Author

Kay Tang is a journalist who has been writing since 1990. She previously covered developments in theater for the "Dramatists Guild Quarterly." Tang graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in economics and political science from Yale University and completed a Master of Professional Studies in interactive telecommunications at New York University.

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