How to Know if Someone Likes You Romantically

Finding that special someone usually starts with a casual acquaintance.
Two people sitting on a chaise lounge in front of a window.Two people sitting on a chaise lounge in front of a window.
A casual acquaintance often leads to friendship, and before you know it, you’re wondering if your “friend” has something more in mind. Deciding whether someone is interested in you romantically takes correctly interpreting the signals the person is sending.

Something in the Eyes

A young man and woman looking at one another by a river.
The way another person looks at you can speak volumes about what is in his heart.
The eyes can reveal feelings in a way nothing else can. If you catch the person staring at you when you are not looking, or you meet each other’s eyes and he looks away, chances are he’s interested in more than just being your friend. Former FBI and counterintelligence agent Joe Navarro tells Psychology Today in the online article, “The Body Language of the Eyes,” that what is often difficult to say aloud is perfectly expressed in the eyes.

Flush or Blush

Two students talking in front of a school.
It might seem like an old-fashioned concept, but if romance is in the air for you and another person, she may get red in the face when she’s talking to you.
People blush when veins in the face dilate, causing blood to flow into the cheeks, creating a rosy color. This could be because when you are in the presence of someone you are attracted to, your heart rate and blood pressure tend to rise, causing the flushing or blushing response.

The Time Factor

Two people hiking along a wooden rail road track.
As simple as it sounds, one of the most obvious ways to tell if someone is interested in you romantically is if he wants to spend time with you.
When a person seeks you out over others, plans ahead to be where you are or makes time to see you even when he’s at his busiest, it’s a big sign that he wants to be more than just friends. According to relationship and lifestyle columnist Amy Chan in the article, “The One Way to Find Out if Someone Likes You,” for Huff Post Women, if the person in question is too busy to make getting to know you a priority, then he is probably not interested in taking the relationship any further.

Body Language

A woman resting her hand on a man's shoulder in the park.
Body language is another way someone who is interested in you romantically sends signals.
A gentle touch on the elbow, sitting so her shoulder is next to yours or standing nearest to you when others are part of the conversation are all signs she might like to take your relationship to another level. As noted by Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, in the article, “The Body Language of Attraction,” for the Huffington Post, it takes the human body only one second to decide whether someone is physically attractive or not. Watching for body-language signals can help you determine where your relationship might be going next.

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About the Author

Patti Richards has been a writer since 1990. She writes children’s books and articles on parenting, women's health and education. Her credits include San Diego Family Magazine, Metro Parent Magazine, Boys' Quest Magazine and many others. Richards has a Bachelor of Science in English/secondary education from Welch College.