How to Let a Guy Know You Like Him Without Being Obvious

A subtle touch on the shoulder can help get your feelings across.A subtle touch on the shoulder can help get your feelings across.

Meeting someone you are interested in dating is an exhilarating feeling. However, if you are fearful of being overly obvious of your feelings when around him, you can take a few steps to help keep yourself calm and relaxed when in his company. Letting a guy know that you like him is possible without being entirely obvious, as long as you keep yourself grounded and confident.

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Step 1

Introduce yourself to the guy you are interested in if you are not already acquainted. Strike up a conversation about recent events, a class you have in common with him if you're attending school, or even a hobby of yours. It is important to meet someone face to face and have a conversation before deciding if you really feel compatible and interested.

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Step 2

Get to know him more after your first conversation by suggesting to hang out or accepting any offers he may ask you, even if it is not in a romantic way. Have some of your friends meet at the movies or go out to lunch together as a group with him. Although you may like him, it is also important to get to know him before making any quick judgments.

A woman smiles at a man on the train.

Step 3

Compliment him while you are out together and keep eye contact with him while you speak. Subtle flirting also includes smiling and mimicking his body language, suggests author Jen Kim, writing for "Psychology Today." This all shows him you are interested in what he has to say and ensures he knows you think of him in a positive light.

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Step 4

Ask him to attend a movie or get coffee together outside of a group setting when you feel comfortable enough. This will allow you to have more one-on-one time and deeper conversations. Find out more about his hobbies and interests to confirm if you have any in common.

Two people have a picnic in a city park.

Step 5

Tap his arm, hand or shoulder lightly and gently to get his attention while also showing you are still interested. Over time you can suggest even more one-on-one dates, including going on a night out together, visiting a museum or having dinner for just the two of you, which will show him you are interested in more than just friendship.

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  • You can gauge if he is feeling positive about you by noticing if he is active in the conversation and whether he is smiling and laughing with you often.

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