Grieve your losses.
Before you will be ready to love again, you need to heal the pain that your lost love has inflicted. Whether you lost your love through a failed relationship or the death of a loved one, your lost love left emotional wounds. Grieve your losses so you will free yourself to love again.
Recognize the need to love again.
Loving others is one of the most basic needs of human existence. Without love, life is meaningless. While you might need to take some time to lick your emotional wounds, closing off your heart to love will make your life seem empty.
Decide that loving again is worth the risk.
While you are still in the grieving process, your heart might feel too fragile to take the risk of loving again. However, as you grieve your loss and become more emotionally healthy, you will move toward being ready to open up your heart again.
The more you love yourself, the more likely you are to attract a person who is emotionally healthy. If you go out looking for love to fill a hole in your heart, then you are much more likely to attract someone who wants to take advantage of you. However, if you come from the perspective of having lots of love to give, then you will attract a similar person.
Think about what you want in a new relationship.
Set a standard for what you are seeking in a new relationship. Make it a point to progress in this relationship, and don't fall into old patterns just because they are comfortable.
Let the love come to you.
Don’t go out looking for “Mr. Right” in places where singles congregate. Instead, get involved in activities which you enjoy that bring you into contact with people who have the same interests. Whether you do this through a church, a bowling league or a city tennis club, get involved in your community in a positive manner.
Ease into a new relationship slowly.
Do not try to replace the lost relationship. Instead, allow a new one to grow and blossom in its own way
- If you are having a hard time grieving the loss of a past love, consider finding a therapist with experience in counseling people with similar issues. A good therapist can guide you through the grieving process so that you will be able to love again.
- Don't rush into a relationship simply because you are lonely. Let love take its course.