How to Make Men Want You

Lean in to create intimacy.Lean in to create intimacy.

It takes more than physical beauty to attract most men, although beauty can certainly give a woman an edge on catching the eye of a man. The trick is retaining the initial attraction and fostering it with your behavior. Learning how to make men want you may take some time and study of human behavior.

Step 1

Make yourself appealing. Pay attention to your hygiene and spend time on your hair, makeup, clothing and anything else that can add to your appeal. Don't be something you're not; find your own personal style and make sure you look your best.

Step 2

Convey an image of self-confidence and people will naturally be attracted to you. If you have issues with feeling good about yourself, give yourself a silent pep talk before walking into a room. Tell yourself that you are desirable and attractive.

Step 3

Show an interest in what he is saying. Ask him to explain further and ask for his help in understanding or accomplishing something. The four words men most want to hear from women are "I need your help," according to dating coach Lisa Copeland.

Step 4

Pay attention to your body language. A woman who stands huddled in the corner of the room with her arms crossed, not making eye contact with anyone, will not get as much attention from men as a woman walking through the room, interacting with everyone. Don't close yourself off with your body language, such as crossing your arms in front of you. Lean in close when a man talks to you and don't be afraid to touch him; a hand on his shoulder or knee can catch a man's attention quickly.

Step 5

Mimic his movements subtly. Make him feel at ease in the interaction by taking things just a little higher than where he takes them. For example, if he leans in slightly to speak to you, lean in just a little closer than he did. If he pats your hand while speaking to you, pat his hand, too, but linger a little longer. Be subtle, but encourage his attraction to the point he feels as though he is getting all the right signals from you.

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  • You don't want every man to want you, so be selective about the men to whom you send positive signals.

About the Author

Tamsen Butler is a freelance writer and editor. She has been a professional writer for nearly five years and writes regularly for several financial and parenting websites. She is a published author and is enrolled in graduate school pursuing a degree in counseling. Her two children keep her quite busy but also enjoys teaching acting classes and is active in her church.

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