How to Make Small Talk at a Bar

Forget the old cliched "Come here often?" You really can make intelligent small talk in a bar. Here's how.

Make eye contact and smile. This makes you approachable.

Use an opening line such as, "What are you drinking?"

Pay the person a sincere compliment. True flattery will get you everywhere.

Try to find a common ground between you.

Discuss events in the news, places to eat, music or movies you both like. Avoid politics, religion, or other heavy topics.

Encourage the other person to talk about what interests him or her - work, car or hobbies are good places to start.

Make up a hypothetical question if the conversation begins to lag: What would you change if you were designing humans? What would you do if you won the lottery?

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Things You Will Need

  • Books On Conversation Tips
  • Fresh-cut Flowers
  • Boxes Of Chocolates
  • Breath Mints
  • Concert Tickets
  • Dinner Reservations
  • Movie Tickets
  • Bike Helmets
  • Mountain Bikes


  • Stay away from pickup lines, particularly, "I am very, very lonely, and I was wonderin' ... " and "Can I see your tan lines?"
  • Avoid discussing religion, crime, former relationships, and politics.
  • Don't put yourself - or anyone else - down.

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