Sparking a Man's Interest
Emphasize your looks. Like it or not, men are visual. This doesn't mean dressing like a streetwalker, but it does mean showing off your best features. You can accomplish this even when dressing casually. Wear a sweater that flatters your shape rather than a shapeless garment big enough to swim in, for instance.
Smile and make eye contact. Let him know that you truly enjoy his company. Pick up on clues during conversations about things he enjoys and drop hints that you would like to share them with him. Keep the conversation light and positive until you know one another better. Once you've established rapport, you can begin to share more personal insights--but don't share too much too soon.
Let him do favors for you. If he's doing nice things for you, it will make him feel better about himself, and also trigger thoughts in his subconscious about you. This runs counter to our instincts, but it's an effective technique, according to Tracey Cox, author of "Superflirt."
Share adventures and new experiences. According to the author of "Seven Weeks to Better Sex," Dr. Domeena Renshaw of Loyola University, "Falling in love causes our body to release a flood of feel-good chemicals that trigger specific physical reactions. This internal elixir of love is responsible for making our cheeks flush, our palms sweat and our hearts race." Sharing new experiences, especially those that get your blood pumping and your heart racing, can duplicate this sensation.
Let men know your company is desirable to others. Don't be afraid to ask for a rain check if you have other plans when a man calls. You don't need to play games, but a man should not be able to assume you will drop everything to be with him.
- Avoid the dreaded "friend zone" by maintaining a sense of flirtation with him. Touch him lightly on the arm and lean in closely when you're talking with him.
- It's perfectly okay to date other men even if you really like one. It will keep you from feeling and acting desperate.
- Don't push too fast. It's okay to ask a man out, but not to your best friend's wedding if you've just met.
- Keep your jealousy in check, even if he seems interested in others, at least until you're in a committed relationship.