How to Manage the Painful Experience of a Breakup

Recovering from a breakup takes time.Recovering from a breakup takes time.

Initially love can be exhilarating, but a breakup is often devastating. Many breakups are one-sided; one partner wants to leave and the other wants to stay together. Even if you know the other person isn't right for you, a breakup will trigger emotions that need to be expressed and acknowledged before you can successfully move forward. Managing the pain requires you to be honest with yourself regarding your feelings, but you must also make an effort to fill your time with new activities.

Step 1

Write in a journal to express your feelings and emotions about the relationship and the breakup. Venting your feelings onto paper will help you deal with them, and reading through the journal will help you track of your emotional progress over time.

Step 2

Visit friends and family so you're not spending too much time alone. An empty home often makes a breakup more challenging, especially if you lived with your partner. Being surrounded by loved ones alleviates feelings of loneliness.

Step 3

Try new activities and hobbies. Placing your emotional energy into something you enjoy takes some of the focus off the breakup.

Step 4

Date casually until you feel fully healed from your last relationship. Dating again helps you get over an ex, but keeping it casual prevents you from jumping into a new relationship before you're ready.

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  • Take care of yourself physically. Eat a healthful diet, and get plenty of sleep and exercise to help handle the stress.

About the Author

Michael Davidson started writing screenplays in 2003 and has had a screenplay professionally produced. He has also studied martial arts since 1990 and has worked as a licensed security specialist. Davidson has written articles for various websites. He is a graduate of Michigan State University and holds a Bachelor of Arts in advertising.

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