Marriage & Relationships: How to Get Over a Breakup

Healing from a breakup takes time.Healing from a breakup takes time.

In the gloom and gray of a broken relationship or marriage it is hard to see a brighter tomorrow. Breaking up hurts. The pain is real and can sometimes seem unbearable. Adjusting to loss takes time, patience and perseverance. Mend your broken heart and begin anticipating each new day with excitement and new-found joy. Get over the "I'm over it" hump, which may take some time to climb, and begin anew. Let tomorrow be a brighter day.

Cry when you need to.

Step 1

Allow yourself time to grieve and process your loss by taking some time to yourself and crying when you want to. Breaking up involves the permanent removal of a person in your life. Emotions are painful but are real.

Writing can be therapeutic.

Step 2

Write about your emotions in a journal. Writing can help clear your head and is a way to release emotion.

Call your friends for support.

Step 3

Talk about how you’re feeling. Be honest about your sadness, despair and fears about your new-found single lifestyle. Leaning on the strength of your friendships will allow you to feel less alone.

Your future can involve new friendships.

Step 4

Make a list of future plans to remind yourself that you have a future. You have to let go of dreams that involve your mate, but you can create exciting new hopes and dreams.

Rely on good friends for support.

Step 5

Reach out to people who are positive, who value you and energize you. Surround yourself with people who will not tell you what to do, judge you or criticize you.

Try a new activity and make friends.

Step 6

Cultivate new friendships and social networks that are healthy. If you feel like you have lost good friends in a divorce, make an effort to meet new people by looking at familiar places in new ways. For example, enjoy your lunch break with friends instead of eating at your desk or take a new class at the gym.

Step 7

Enjoy your new life.

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Things You Will Need

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About the Author

Jennifer Dermody started writing in 1992. She has been published in "Running Wild Magazine," "The Green Book" environmental bid journal and local publications in the areas that she has lived all over the world. She is currently a licensed Florida real estate agent. Dermody earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in communications from Regis College in 1993.

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