How to Meet Guys at Bars

Ask a guy about his drink choice as a conversation starter.Ask a guy about his drink choice as a conversation starter.

While some people go to bars just to have fun and party it up with friends, it doesn't mean that it's impossible to meet someone in a bar who's ready for a relationship. It you're looking for more than just a casual hookup, you should go light on the drinks -- and be wary of guys who are obviously feeling the effects of the booze. Be friendly and cordial, but know when to walk away if a guy is hitting on you for a one-night stand, or a guy just isn't someone you want to know better.

Step 1

Dress to attract the type of man you want to meet. While you want to look sexy and attractive, you don't want to dress in clothes are too tight, too skimpy or cut too low. Dressing too suggestively sends the message that you're looking for nothing but casual sex.

Step 2

Walk and talk with confidence. Put down your cellphone and focus on who's in the bar. Smile and laugh if you're with a group of friends -- and interact with those you don't know who are seated near you if they're friendly and open to talking.

Step 3

Browse the bar for a guy you find attractive. Make eye contact. Smile. If you're with a group, he may be too shy to approach you while you have friends surrounding you. If this is the case, move to where he is. Be friendly if he engages you in a conversation, or try to engage him in one.

Step 4

Leave your friends for a bit and sit yourself next to a group of men if you don't make eye contact with one particular man. Chances are someone in the group will chat with a woman who is seated alone. Once you're chatting with one guy, if he doesn't really interest you, scope out his friends and try to engage someone in conversation who you do find attractive.

Step 5

Move to the pool table or dartboard if you can't find someone at the bar that you fancy. If you're drawn to someone playing a game, compliment his skill. This will give him some confidence and make him feel comfortable. Express your interest in the game. You might even challenge him to a game if you can play.

Step 6

Don't clam up or bombard a man with questions if you come across someone you'd like to know better. Take it slow -- but try to keep the conversation going. Ask him questions regarding his hobbies, favorite sports teams and movies -- and share some casual, but not too personal, information about yourself.

Step 7

End the conversation if you're chatting up a man and realize that he's not your type. Tell him you need to find a friend or make a phone call, or whatever it takes to let him know that you're not interested. Go back to your friends or mingle with the crowd.

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  • It's unwise to give someone you just met your address -- or to go off with him by yourself. If you click with someone, exchange emails or phone numbers.

About the Author

Based in Toronto, Mary Jane has been writing for online magazines and databases since 2002. Her articles have appeared on the Simon & Schuster website and she received an editor's choice award in 2009. She holds a Master of Arts in psychology of language use from the University of Copenhagen in Denmark.

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