Try online dating. With millions of Americans turning to the Internet for love, you might just find your Mr. Right online. Internet dating works well for single moms since it saves you time by screening out the bad apples. Plus, you can email and call any potential dates before you meet them in person. Popular dating sites include eHarmony and Match.com. You can also join a site that caters specifically to one-parent families, like Meet Single Parents.
Join a community social group. Become a member of a hiking group, ballroom dance team, movie club, or whatever else tickles your fancy. Finding a new hobby gives you the opportunity to have fun and to meet new men in your area. Sites like Meetup.com and SocialGrid.com offer listings of community groups all over the country. You can also check the bulletin boards at your community center and library to see what events are happening in your area.
Head back to school. Whether you're finishing a degree or taking a couple classes for fun, your local college can be a good way to meet single men. If your schedule allows, sign up for an evening class since these courses attract older students who are trying to juggle a career and education (like many single moms out there). Also, consider joining a college-sponsored club or organization to meet guys outside of your classes.
Go to church. If you belong to a religious organization, going to church is a great way to meet men who share your moral and religious beliefs. Get involved with your congregation by joining a committee or church group, which will help you meet the eligible bachelors in your spiritual community. Many churches host events for their single members too so try to attend a few of these. If your congregation doesn't provide these events, ask your church leader if you can put one together.
Hire a matchmaker. A matchmaker saves you time by weeding out the men who don't suit your preferences. Also, a matchmaker can specifically set you up with single fathers or with guys who don't mind dating a woman with children. In short, matchmaking can be a helpful resource for busy single moms who don't have the time to scour for dates.
- If you decide to try online dating, write your profile with your own interests in mind. Of course, you can talk about how passionate you are about your kids, but you also need to talk about things that you enjoy doing on your own. David Wygant, a dating expert for Yahoo! Personals, believes too many single moms use their profiles to write about what activities they do with their kids rather than what activities they'd enjoy doing with their dates. When you join an online dating site, post a picture of yourself onto your profile. A good photo will boost your profile considerably. Ask a friend who's handy with a camera to snap a few shots of you. (Remember to smile!) Use a photo with only you in it---no pets, no kids, and no group of friends. Be patient. Finding the right guy for you and your kids may take some time. Don't stress out if you're not going out on dates or meeting the right guy.
- When dating online, be wary of how much contact information you list on your site. Don't provide your telephone number, address, or personal email address.