How Not to Be Shy Around Your Crush

When your crush comes around, you may feel your heart begin to race and your mind go blank.
Avoid closed body language that projects a lack of confidence.Avoid closed body language that projects a lack of confidence.
However, you shouldn’t retreat when that special someone crosses your path. You need to engage your crush if you want a relationship to grow. Adjusting your appearance and developing your conversational skills can help you seize the opportunity.

Step 1

Practice good grooming habits.
You don’t have to be dressed in a tuxedo and top hat every time you meet your crush, but remember the basics of good hygiene. Not only will you look more presentable, but you will also feel more confident.

Step 2

Arm yourself with conversation topics.
Gather interesting stories from news reports or practice voicing your opinions of movies and music. When you engage your crush, you’ll have plenty to talk about.

Step 3

Practice open body language.
Actions such as folding your arms in front of your chest or looking at the ground may only reinforce your nervousness. Instead, use a mirror to practice an easy smile and relaxed eye contact. According to therapist Erika Hilliard, an approachable appearance will help you feel more extroverted.

Step 4

Accept brief moments of silence during conversations.
If you fear awkward silences, you may end up babbling in a desperate attempt to keep the chat moving. Instead of focusing on the silence, calmly look around for other things to comment on.

Step 5

Ask your crush questions.
You don’t need to be an expert conversationalist to ask your crush about her interests and opinions. Not only will you learn more about your crush, but she may also be flattered that you’re showing a sincere interest in her opinions. Be an active listener and interject your own comments.

About the Author

Mitch Reid has been a writer since 2006. He holds a fine arts degree in creative writing, but has a persistent interest in social psychology. He loves train travel, writing fiction, and leaping out of planes. His written work has appeared on sites such as Synonym.com and GlobalPost, and he has served as an editor for ebook publisher Crescent Moon Press, as well as academic literary journals.

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