Breakups are among the toughest experiences to endure. When you really like someone and have grown accustomed to having him in your life, it can be hard to deal with his absence. But with the right attitudes and behaviors, you can get over a guy you still like in almost no time at all.
Stay around close friends. Being alone can make it even harder to get over a guy you still like than it has to be. You'll end up with a lot of time to just sit and think--and guess what you'll be thinking about? Instead, occupy your mind by focusing on your friends.
Sit down and read a book. Choose a book you've been dying to read lately, but just haven't had the time. Get comfortable. Lose your thoughts in the book, and you'll find that you are spending less time thinking about him already.
Keep a level head. Sometimes it's hard to get over a guy who believes it's OK to still flirt with you from time to time. When something like this happens, don't flirt back. Even if part of you automatically responds to his overtures, turn it off! Remind yourself that, if it was meant to be, you would still be together. Know that there's something bigger and better out there for you.
Cut him out of your life if you know it's the only way you'll get over him. Delete him from your cell phone, email system and any other system of communication. It can be hard to stop yourself from text messaging, because it's sometimes easier to "type" words than to "say" them. But forbid yourself from doing it.
Start an exercise regimen. It's not uncommon for girls to automatically belittle themselves when they're trying to get over a guy. If you begin an exercise regimen, it will boost your mood immensely and make you feel better about yourself in the meantime. This is a good time to try out a new fitness club, learn to pole dance or maybe take a karate class. Try something challenging to consume your mind and push away the thoughts of him.
Begin writing a journal. When you put your thoughts on paper, you'll be amazed at how much more relaxed you become. Thoughts trapped in your head without an outlet go around and around in a destructive cycle. Pick out a cute new journal and start writing. Every time you pick it up, read the previous entry first. You'll be amazed at how much this helps you realize how perfect you weren't together.
Things You Will Need
- Music can help increase your mood immensely, so go buy that CD you've been wanting all week. Crank it up and sing along!
- It's OK to cry. Sometimes crying can be one of the quickest ways to get over bad feelings. We just need to get them out, and that's what crying is for. So sit down and have a good cry and notice how much better you feel already.
- Be open to finding someone new. It's not always good to begin a relationship right after a breakup, but it is helpful to keep your eye on some guys for a while. You never know what could happen.
- Don't lie about it. When someone gives you her condolences, don't say you're over it unless you really are. Just smile and try to not say anything at all (if you can do so politely). Most people will get the hint and keep his name out of conversations.