How to Get Over Jealousy Issues

Being jealous means being resentful or bitter.
It is a non-productive emotion that can destroy your relationships and keep you from focusing on your own well-being. Jealousy requires you to focus energy on the object of your jealousy rather than yourself, which can prevent you from achieving your own goals and living your life to the fullest. While severe jealousy issues may be difficult to overcome, you can learn to get over your jealousy issues by changing the way you feel about yourself.

Admit to yourself that you are jealous, then write down the reasons you feel jealous toward someone.
The first step in getting over your jealousy issues is to admit and identify your jealousy. Ask yourself what it is about someone that makes you jealous. Ask yourself what you can do to achieve the same hings in life the object of your jealousy has achieved.
Write a list of your positive attributes.
Some people feel jealous of others because they don't have enough self-esteem or confidence in themselves. Low self-esteem can cause you to feel jealous of other people because it makes you believe you can never have what others have. Tell yourself how good you are. Don't be afraid to pat yourself on the back. Look at what you have in life and appreciate it.
Look at the object of your jealousy from another angle.
Admire what he has and turn it into a positive influence. Tell yourself that you want the same thing and that you have the ability to go out and get it. Refer to your list of positive attributes about yourself and constantly tell yourself that you are capable of achieving your own goals.
Avoid stressing over those things you can't control.
If you have a significant other you feel is looking at others, fall back on developing the confidence you are building in yourself. If you feel good about yourself, then you won't be as likely to get jealous when someone looks at your mate, because you will be confident in who you are. If your significant other is looking at others, tell yourself the problem lies with your significant other, not with you.

Tip

  • See someone if you need to. Jealousy can be an overwhelming emotion that may require professional help. It may just require you sitting down with someone you trust and talking it through.

About the Author

Carl Hose is the author of the anthology "Dead Horizon" and the the zombie novella "Dead Rising." His work has appeared in "Cold Storage," "Butcher Knives and Body Counts," "Writer's Journal," and "Lighthouse Digest.". He is editor of the "Dark Light" anthology to benefit Ronald McDonald House Charities.

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