Physical Attraction & Dating

That spark of electricity that you feel when your new crush walks into the room isn't in your imagination.
Your partner's personality may influence how attractive you find her.Your partner's personality may influence how attractive you find her.
The physical attraction of initial infatuation goes hand-in-hand with an upswing of euphoria-inducing chemicals that your brain releases. But even though physical attraction is partially responsible for your desire to date, it doesn't mean everything.

Addicted Attraction

You've only been out on a few dates with your new guy, but you already want to see him on a 24-7 basis.
The physical attraction you feel is causing the release of dopamine -- a chemical in your brain -- according to counselor Debra Manchester MacMannis in the article "Why Do Fools Fall in Love? Our Brains Have Some Answers," on the PsychCentral website. Before you declare your love, keep in mind that the "addicted" feeling is not the same as true emotional closeness. Take time to see how your feelings level out after the initial attraction fades.

Nervous Love

Not only does the physical pull of your new date make you want to see her, but it can also make you nervous and excited, according to the article "Love and Romance" on the TeensHealth website.
When you see your cute crush or get near him, your palms may sweat or your stomach may feel the flutter of nervous butterflies. This giddy, yet uncertain, feeling isn't likely to last forever. As you move from "just dating" to "in a relationship" the jumpy jitters that run through your body will gradually calm down.

The Main Attraction

While the nervousness of an initial infatuation slowly cools, that doesn't mean that the physical attraction part of your relationship will go away.
A healthy relationship involves attraction. The combination of physical attraction and a close bond separates a crush from true romantic love, according to the article "Love and Romance" on the TeensHealth website. Even though you don't feel butterflies every time your guy walks by, you'll still need to feel that physical pull to continue in a positive dating relationship.

Cute Qualities

If your girl's curvy body or fabulous face are the only features that attract you to her, your dating experience isn't likely to last.
Although physical attraction is an essential part of romantic love, it isn't the only aspect of dating. Getting to know your partner and learning about her hopes, dreams and fears will bring the two of you closer than a simple attraction or physical infatuation. Consider your girlfriend's other qualities. For example, ask yourself if you enjoy talking to her.

About the Author

Based in Pittsburgh, Erica Loop has been writing education, child development and parenting articles since 2009. Her articles have appeared in "Pittsburgh Parent Magazine" and the website PBS Parents. She has a Master of Science in applied developmental psychology from the University of Pittsburgh's School of Education.

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