When one partner is forced to dress or act in a certain way, especially a way that is in direct contrast to their natural personality, this can be a sign of an abusive relationship.
Witnessing extreme mood swings from one partner in the relationship, such as one moment complimenting and the next moment threatening any sort of harm, is another indicator of an abusive relationship.
The abuse of drugs and alcohol by one or both members of the relationship can point to greater trouble behind closed doors.
Sometimes direct physical abuse is not present, rather the abusing partner will take anger out physically on family members, pets or friends.
Physical roughness, such as pushing, pulling and restraining, are clear signs of an abusive dating relationship.
Controll Through Shame
The degradation of one partner in front of others or alone, such as calling her fat or calling him dumb and stupid, is symptomatic of abuse.