How to Pick Up A Girl At A Bar

"Layman psychology," the concept of psychology as seen from a layman's eyes and experiences, contains myriad errors.
You do not need to rely on alcohol for a solid bar pickup.You do not need to rely on alcohol for a solid bar pickup.
Many men and women use layman psychology to encourage others in their pursuit of partners. The result is corny pickup lines and embarrassment for all. Psychological theories of communication and social interaction are reliable bases for advice regarding pickup. If your goal is to pick up a girl at a bar, you only need to understand a few basic psychological principles and apply them in-field.

Approach with confidence.
Confidence is one of the most desired traits of a man. When you have targeted a specific woman at a bar, do not wait for her to talk to you, as the probability of this happening is low. Instead, approach her directly and with confidence. This means walking with a confident posture and eye contact.
Begin the interaction non-stereotypically.
For many, the purpose of a bar is to meet potential partners. Being so, the woman you are approaching has likely been approached several times. Do not use pickup lines. Do not compliment her looks. Do not ask her personal questions. Say something interesting and creative or ask a question that is likely to yield a more-than-one-word answer.
Continue the conversation while simultaneously implicitly displaying your positive traits.
The topic of the conversation is not important, as meaningful communication in romantic pursuits is mostly nonverbal. Talk louder than you feel is necessary; remember you are in a noisy bar and likely to be misheard. Displaying your positive traits includes showing kindness and compassion, comfort with being close to women and intellect.
Move out of the bar.
Take the woman outside, whether to another venue, a restaurant or your home. Do not suggest to move from the bar, but actually make the decision. In other words, do not ask if she would like to go with you somewhere but state you and her are going elsewhere and take her there. If you were successful in your interaction with her, it is unlikely she will refuse. Congratulations, you are now on a date.

About the Author

Having obtained a Master of Science in psychology in East Asia, Damon Verial has been applying his knowledge to related topics since 2010. Having written professionally since 2001, he has been featured in financial publications such as SafeHaven and the McMillian Portfolio. He also runs a financial newsletter at Stock Barometer.

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