How to Pick Up Older Women

Perhaps you are older and further along in your life, and you are looking for a female companion who is close to your age.
Finding the companionship of an older woman can be fun and rewarding.Finding the companionship of an older woman can be fun and rewarding.
On the other hand, you may actually be younger, but you prefer the company of a lady who is a little older and more experienced. Either way, getting involved with an older woman can be a challenging, but rewarding, endeavor. Although there is no magical formula for picking up an older woman,some pointers can help you to be successful in your mission.

Project a sense of self-confidence.
Older women have no time for men who don't possess the basic manly attribute of self-confidence. Older women tend to be more self-confident than their younger female counterparts, so it stands to reason that they are looking for a guy who isn't second-guessing himself.
Leave the pick-up lines at home.
A mature lady probably has heard enough lines to sense one coming a mile away. Pick-up lines make you look insecure and unintelligent.
Shower her with attention.
This appeals to women of all ages. Make and maintain eye contact with her. Engage her in conversation and really listen to what she is saying. Attention coupled with good conversation can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
Expect straightforwardness.
Most older women have little patience for games. If she is looking for a one-night-stand, she may come right out and say so very quickly. On the other hand, if she is looking for a relationship, she may let you know that as well. She probably will expect the same honesty from you.
Expect boldness in the area of physical intimacy.
If you become sexually involved with a mature woman, she probably will be much more confident of her sexuality than most younger women are. She may initiate sex more and take the lead during sexual activity. For some men, this can be a turn-off or intimidating, but for others it can actually be a turn-on.
Offer chivalrous actions, but don't be insulted if they are refused.
You should offer to pay for an older woman's drink if you are interested in her, but she may turn you down. While this could indicate that she's not interested, this isn't always the case. Many older ladies are more financially stable and prefer to remain financially independent, rather than relying on a man's contributions.
Have fun and stay relaxed.
Many women spend their younger years stressed out from relationships, work and raising children. Older women often look for opportunities to enjoy life without a lot of stress and drama.

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Charlotte Johnson is a musician, teacher and writer with a master's degree in education. She has contributed to a variety of websites, specializing in health, education, the arts, home and garden, animals and parenting.

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