Know what kind of person you're dating. Many women and men make the mistake of looking past immediate flaws in new relationships. Perhaps your date calls you a name in a joking manner early on in your relationship. Maybe they shove you when they are stressed out. Learning what signs trigger abuse can save you a world of pain.
Use your head. They often say that "Love is blind" because of the rush of endorphins and happy emotions associated with new love. Look past your emotional euphoria and try to see your date for their true character.
Take them off of their pedestal. Many new relationships begin with either partner elevating their date on a pedestal. This is the "can do no wrong stage" of a relationship. By looking at your date as a person with flaws, just like you, you'll be less likely to take abuse.
Be your own person. Many abusive individuals prey on weak or insecure partners. They may feel powerful or dominant around you, adding to the possibility they'll abuse you.
Stay close with good friends and family members. Many abusive partners attempt to isolate their victims in order to control them. By making the important people in your life priorities, you'll be less likely to be controlled.
Do a background check. Talk to your new boyfriend or girlfriend's past partners. Find out what you can about your new love. You can prevent an abusive relationship right from the start, usually.
Realize that you cannot change a person and your partner's exes were not all "crazy." Many abusive individuals badmouth their past flames in hopes to gain your sympathy and attraction. Everyone wants to feel like they're "special" and "different." An abuser often uses these desires to fuel an abusive relationship.
Things You Will Need
- A dating partner who is abusive
- Alternative relationship options
- Good support system
- Common sense
- Strength and inner confidence
- Always call the police if you're physically abused. If you ever feel unsafe around an individual, contact someone who can assist you.
- Never remain in a relationship with someone who hurts you. They cannot change unless they undergo professional counseling and truly desire to do so.