Qualities to Look for when Dating

There are a few important universal qualities everyone should search for in a mate.There are a few important universal qualities everyone should search for in a mate.

Navigating the world of dating will undoubtedly involve a bit of uncertainty. Because people have such diverse preferences it is difficult to create a universal list of standards for everyone to follow. However, while individual preferences and standards can help foster a successful dating experience, there are particular qualities one should seek out in a mate to improve your chance of an appealing match.

Keep Chemistry in Mind

If there aren't fireworks, forget it.

This may sound like a no-brainer when it comes to dating, as often this is the basis for attraction to one another. However, many people can carry with them preconceived notions of what makes a good partner, not realizing the importance of an innate connection. If your bond feels pleasant but unexciting, it's probably not meant to be.

Confidence is Key

Find someone who is self assured.

There is nothing quite like spending time with someone who is totally comfortable in their own skin. If your date is a confident and self assured person, chances are you will spend less time questioning the relationship or considering the opinions of friends or family which can often get in the way of truly deciding what is right for you.

Find Someone with Similar Values

Optimism is an important value in a potential partner.

The values of your partner can make or break your dating experience. We all know that opposites attract, especially when you are young, because it is more interesting to find someone who brings something new to the table. However, if you are thinking about becoming serious with someone, take a hard look at what is most important to them. For example, if spending time a great deal of time with your family is important to you, this should appeal to your partner too, not just be an obligation she is willing to shoulder.

Cultivate communication

Make sure you spend time with effective communicators.

Are you and the person you are dating looking for the same thing? If you are dating a strong communicator, you should already know the answer to this question. While it is not always comfortable to ask someone their expectations early on in a relationship, if you do not know the answer to this question chances are your relationship will continue to flounder instead of progress positively. It will be extremely difficult to build a relationship with someone if you cannot to communicate needs and desires to each other.

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About the Author

Jordan McCord has been a writer since 2002. She has written for a variety of newspapers and magazines in Ohio and Pennsylvania. While living in Florence, Italy she wrote for "The Florentine" newspaper. McCord earned her Bachelor of Arts in English from Dickinson College.

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